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There are all kinds of love in the world. No two relationships are ever the same. Love can be for more than one human and it can be unrequited. It has changed a lot compared to when our grandparents were our age. There are so many different ways to meet people, it is both amazing and daunting at the same time.

My love story started online. Every day you hear about more and more people who find their person online. 20 years ago it was unheard of. I wasn't looking for it but somehow the magic of the internet connected me with a boy who I could talk to for hours and we quickly became friends. Over time we became more than that and then one day we met face to face. And then began our long distance relationship. 

We have been in a long distance relationship for over a year and we're still going strong. There are 168 miles in between us, although it may not seem like a lot compared to others who have hundreds or thousands of miles to work with, it is far enough. Some days are harder than others but when you're together you forget about it all. 

It feels a little strange talking about something close to my heart but I wanted to share some of my thoughts about being in a long distance relationship and maybe give a little advice and tips to those of you in a LDR. 

What I've learnt about being in a long distance relationship


Make plans to see each other 
We always make sure that we plan for our next weekend together. It's good to have something to look forward to, you can count down the days and think about what you'll do when you're next together. We also think about day trips out and weekends away that we would like to do.

The good and bad of travelling
I love the feeling when I'm in my car on my way to see my love for the weekend. I know it's a matter of hours until I see his face. I have been stuck in traffic plenty of times on a Friday evening and it sucks. Although it is not as bad as the feeling when your heart sinks while driving away from them. Be prepared to spend a lot of time stuck in a car, train or plane. And if you can, try and travel at off peak times. 

Online dates
Technology is a life saver if you're in a LDR. Throughout the day we use WhatsApp and about once every week or two we make time to either Skype, FaceTime or call each other. Simple things like sending a photo of where we are or what we're having for lunch can make us feel like we're closer to each others everyday lives.  

Trust and communication
I find it incredibly easily to trust my guy. I don't even have to think about it. It comes naturally and we both know that we can always talk to each other about how we are feeling. Being emotionally close is just as important as being physically close. 

Embracing time alone
I like having time to myself and I try to fill it with things I like to do like going for coffee with friends, working out or baking. I think it's important to make the most of this time and enjoy being alone while it lasts. Time also goes quicker when you keep busy. 

Take photos and make memories
Every day we spend together is the greatest. Even the little things like making dinner at home together is fun. We also love to go out and visit new places and make memories. I like to capture them so I can look back and be reminded of that happy moment. 

It won't last forever 
Sometimes I have to remind myself that being in a long distance relationship won't last forever. One day this chapter of our relationship will be in the past and it will make us stronger for the future.

Like all relationships it takes a lot of work. Patience. Time. And love. If they make you feel happy even when you're physically apart, that's all that matters. Happy Valentines day, my love x

A Long Distance Relationship

14.2.17


There are all kinds of love in the world. No two relationships are ever the same. Love can be for more than one human and it can be unrequited. It has changed a lot compared to when our grandparents were our age. There are so many different ways to meet people, it is both amazing and daunting at the same time.

My love story started online. Every day you hear about more and more people who find their person online. 20 years ago it was unheard of. I wasn't looking for it but somehow the magic of the internet connected me with a boy who I could talk to for hours and we quickly became friends. Over time we became more than that and then one day we met face to face. And then began our long distance relationship. 

We have been in a long distance relationship for over a year and we're still going strong. There are 168 miles in between us, although it may not seem like a lot compared to others who have hundreds or thousands of miles to work with, it is far enough. Some days are harder than others but when you're together you forget about it all. 

It feels a little strange talking about something close to my heart but I wanted to share some of my thoughts about being in a long distance relationship and maybe give a little advice and tips to those of you in a LDR. 

What I've learnt about being in a long distance relationship


Make plans to see each other 
We always make sure that we plan for our next weekend together. It's good to have something to look forward to, you can count down the days and think about what you'll do when you're next together. We also think about day trips out and weekends away that we would like to do.

The good and bad of travelling
I love the feeling when I'm in my car on my way to see my love for the weekend. I know it's a matter of hours until I see his face. I have been stuck in traffic plenty of times on a Friday evening and it sucks. Although it is not as bad as the feeling when your heart sinks while driving away from them. Be prepared to spend a lot of time stuck in a car, train or plane. And if you can, try and travel at off peak times. 

Online dates
Technology is a life saver if you're in a LDR. Throughout the day we use WhatsApp and about once every week or two we make time to either Skype, FaceTime or call each other. Simple things like sending a photo of where we are or what we're having for lunch can make us feel like we're closer to each others everyday lives.  

Trust and communication
I find it incredibly easily to trust my guy. I don't even have to think about it. It comes naturally and we both know that we can always talk to each other about how we are feeling. Being emotionally close is just as important as being physically close. 

Embracing time alone
I like having time to myself and I try to fill it with things I like to do like going for coffee with friends, working out or baking. I think it's important to make the most of this time and enjoy being alone while it lasts. Time also goes quicker when you keep busy. 

Take photos and make memories
Every day we spend together is the greatest. Even the little things like making dinner at home together is fun. We also love to go out and visit new places and make memories. I like to capture them so I can look back and be reminded of that happy moment. 

It won't last forever 
Sometimes I have to remind myself that being in a long distance relationship won't last forever. One day this chapter of our relationship will be in the past and it will make us stronger for the future.

Like all relationships it takes a lot of work. Patience. Time. And love. If they make you feel happy even when you're physically apart, that's all that matters. Happy Valentines day, my love x


I couldn't be happier with the arrival of February. January is both a good and not so good month. I feel inspired about what the future 12 months will hold and at the same time I feel low when it's dark all the time. I think everyone in the northern hemisphere can relate to this. There have been some bumps in the road during January but there have been some pretty good moments. This winter has been a slow quiet one. I have embraced it, finding the perfect things to do with my free time and getting ready for the rest of what I hope will be a pretty good year.

When I took these photos it was a good winter day. Nothing extraordinary happened, apart from the magical frost that covered England and the most perfect morning light. It was a Sunday. They are the best for taking it easy and living slowly. I get that happy feeling knowing I have the whole day for myself before the week begins again.


This Sunday in particular I wrapped myself up, picked up my camera and went for a walk around the village first thing in the morning. In winter it is rare for me to be outside in the daylight, so the sun and fresh air truly brightened my mood for the day. It's so peaceful when there are only a few people out and about. Nature never looks more beautiful then when it's covered in frost with the golden light. I was happy I got some good shots. I'm not much of a photographer, amateur at best but I love to find beauty in my surroundings, in a moment and then hold it forever.  These photos will remind me how beautiful winter can be.

I then made my way back home, had a warm bowl of porridge before soaking in a hot bath, There is something about having a bath in the middle of the day that I love, it's a good feeling. I did a little bit of baking and meal prepping for the week. Then I went to the cinema and watched Manchester By The Sea with my sister while I drank a delicious mug of hot chocolate and then went to bed early. So simple but exactly what I needed that day.
 

Every day lately I have tried to do at least one thing for myself. It could be anything from making a good hearty meal, roasted vegetables have been my favourite. Staying in and getting an early night, my body has been craving a good 7 to 8 hours of sleep a night and I try to give myself that rest. Picking up a book and taking in the words from the pages. Buying a bunch of flowers just because. Listening to my favourite albums. Those little things over time make a happy life.  

There is so much goodness in life. Even though some days it doesn't feel like it - especially with current world events. Take the time to cherish the good things. Some days are harder than others and that's okay. Pick yourself up and try again. Relish in the rest of winter. And get ready for what is to come. 
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The Quiet Winter

8.2.17


I couldn't be happier with the arrival of February. January is both a good and not so good month. I feel inspired about what the future 12 months will hold and at the same time I feel low when it's dark all the time. I think everyone in the northern hemisphere can relate to this. There have been some bumps in the road during January but there have been some pretty good moments. This winter has been a slow quiet one. I have embraced it, finding the perfect things to do with my free time and getting ready for the rest of what I hope will be a pretty good year.

When I took these photos it was a good winter day. Nothing extraordinary happened, apart from the magical frost that covered England and the most perfect morning light. It was a Sunday. They are the best for taking it easy and living slowly. I get that happy feeling knowing I have the whole day for myself before the week begins again.


This Sunday in particular I wrapped myself up, picked up my camera and went for a walk around the village first thing in the morning. In winter it is rare for me to be outside in the daylight, so the sun and fresh air truly brightened my mood for the day. It's so peaceful when there are only a few people out and about. Nature never looks more beautiful then when it's covered in frost with the golden light. I was happy I got some good shots. I'm not much of a photographer, amateur at best but I love to find beauty in my surroundings, in a moment and then hold it forever.  These photos will remind me how beautiful winter can be.

I then made my way back home, had a warm bowl of porridge before soaking in a hot bath, There is something about having a bath in the middle of the day that I love, it's a good feeling. I did a little bit of baking and meal prepping for the week. Then I went to the cinema and watched Manchester By The Sea with my sister while I drank a delicious mug of hot chocolate and then went to bed early. So simple but exactly what I needed that day.
 

Every day lately I have tried to do at least one thing for myself. It could be anything from making a good hearty meal, roasted vegetables have been my favourite. Staying in and getting an early night, my body has been craving a good 7 to 8 hours of sleep a night and I try to give myself that rest. Picking up a book and taking in the words from the pages. Buying a bunch of flowers just because. Listening to my favourite albums. Those little things over time make a happy life.  

There is so much goodness in life. Even though some days it doesn't feel like it - especially with current world events. Take the time to cherish the good things. Some days are harder than others and that's okay. Pick yourself up and try again. Relish in the rest of winter. And get ready for what is to come. 
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One thing I want to focus on this year is mindfulness. It is one of my new year goals for 2017, I haven't had the smoothest start of the year but it's not stopping me. I have been thinking a lot about my life and what I'm working towards. Making small steps to get to that place but also making sure I enjoy the journey. The beginning of the new year is often a time of reflection and it's a good time to re-arrange the mind.

January has turned into a month of self care for me. At the start I was focusing on health and fitness and getting back into work again. Until I had a horrible cold for the first time in over 2 years. It took a lot out of me, I got some rest, had a lot of soup and I'm now back to feeling like myself again. It reminded me the importance of self care.

Self care and mindfulness go hand in hand. Now that I have recharged, I want to focus on both by doing little things so that it will slowly be a part of my every day life. I think we could all benefit from a little extra care and I thought I would share a few ways I've started to be more mindful and look after myself.

A few ways to practise self care and mindfulness


Meditate
It's a favourite amongst those that practise mindfulness. I've dipped by toes into meditation. After I've finished a yoga practice I use that time when laying in savasana to meditate for a few moments. I open my eyes and can sometimes feel like a new person. I've also used the Calm app, I'm awful at giving myself time to use it but there is always room for improvement.

Go outside
Getting fresh air and being outside can make you feel so much better. Walking around in the daylight can be difficult at this time of year but on the days when I've stepped out of the office and when it's sunny at the weekends I feel so much better and happier. I'm now really looking forward to the spring sun and longer days.

Gently move your body
Everyone has different fitness abilities and no matter what yours is, you can always do something to get the blood in your body flowing. Go for a leisurely walk down the road or a slow bike ride. My favourite way to look after my body is yoga. I can stretch out any aches I feel, create fire inside and clear my mind. At the weekend I followed Yoga with Adriene's I am Present video, it was exactly what I needed.

Eat fresh 
I try my best to eat wholesome and nourishing food. After an indulgent christmas I found myself craving good food. I love eating vegetables and I love eating pasta. So I have both, I find a balance that works for me and makes me feel good inside. Adding veggies to your favourite dish or snacking on some fruit are small and simple things you can do to look after your body. Remember, never feel bad for treating yourself every now and then!

Get cosy
There is nothing I love more in winter than getting cosy in my comfiest and warmest clothes. I have a soft blanket that I like to wrap around myself in the evenings and I instantly feel comforted and I can begin to unwind from a day at work.

Rest
The last few weeks I have found myself needing to rest alone in the evenings. I lock my bedroom door and just have time to myself laying on my bed, reading something or watching Gilmore Girls. I'm an introvert at heart. I like to be alone to recharge. As much as I love being with people it can sometimes be a little tiring. A few moments of solitude can do so much good.

Make, bake, create
I love doing things with my hands. I have a creative mind but I don't use it as much as I would like. I do little things like bake, it fun and you get something delicious out of it. I take photos and make a scrapbook. I've started practising modern calligraphy and I'm creating my own style. Making something that wasn't once there feels like a real accomplishment and it can also be a great hobby.

Write it down
Sometimes our heads get overcrowded with thoughts. It may be a mental list of things you need to do, worries that cloud your mind or a million random thoughts and ideas. Writing it down can do wonders. You can refer back to the notes you scribble, let out everything that's inside and develop those thoughts. I have a little journal I like to write in from time to time. Sometimes I use it like a diary and talk about what I've been doing or when I need to clear my mind.

Plan something for the future
I love it when I have something to look forward to. It could be a trip away, coffee with friends or something bigger. It gives you something to focus on and a little direction.

Clean and tidy your space
Tidy life, tidy mind. I don't like mess, I'm not perfect (nobody is) but I do what I can to keep my surroundings clean and tidy. It feels good to spend a bit of time cleaning, it's therapeutic and you feel good about it afterwards. It's also one less thing to think about and creates space in your head for the more important things.

Wherever you are in your self care or mindfulness journey, keep doing what is best for you. You've got this.
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Practising Self Care and Mindfulness

25.1.17

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One thing I want to focus on this year is mindfulness. It is one of my new year goals for 2017, I haven't had the smoothest start of the year but it's not stopping me. I have been thinking a lot about my life and what I'm working towards. Making small steps to get to that place but also making sure I enjoy the journey. The beginning of the new year is often a time of reflection and it's a good time to re-arrange the mind.

January has turned into a month of self care for me. At the start I was focusing on health and fitness and getting back into work again. Until I had a horrible cold for the first time in over 2 years. It took a lot out of me, I got some rest, had a lot of soup and I'm now back to feeling like myself again. It reminded me the importance of self care.

Self care and mindfulness go hand in hand. Now that I have recharged, I want to focus on both by doing little things so that it will slowly be a part of my every day life. I think we could all benefit from a little extra care and I thought I would share a few ways I've started to be more mindful and look after myself.

A few ways to practise self care and mindfulness


Meditate
It's a favourite amongst those that practise mindfulness. I've dipped by toes into meditation. After I've finished a yoga practice I use that time when laying in savasana to meditate for a few moments. I open my eyes and can sometimes feel like a new person. I've also used the Calm app, I'm awful at giving myself time to use it but there is always room for improvement.

Go outside
Getting fresh air and being outside can make you feel so much better. Walking around in the daylight can be difficult at this time of year but on the days when I've stepped out of the office and when it's sunny at the weekends I feel so much better and happier. I'm now really looking forward to the spring sun and longer days.

Gently move your body
Everyone has different fitness abilities and no matter what yours is, you can always do something to get the blood in your body flowing. Go for a leisurely walk down the road or a slow bike ride. My favourite way to look after my body is yoga. I can stretch out any aches I feel, create fire inside and clear my mind. At the weekend I followed Yoga with Adriene's I am Present video, it was exactly what I needed.

Eat fresh 
I try my best to eat wholesome and nourishing food. After an indulgent christmas I found myself craving good food. I love eating vegetables and I love eating pasta. So I have both, I find a balance that works for me and makes me feel good inside. Adding veggies to your favourite dish or snacking on some fruit are small and simple things you can do to look after your body. Remember, never feel bad for treating yourself every now and then!

Get cosy
There is nothing I love more in winter than getting cosy in my comfiest and warmest clothes. I have a soft blanket that I like to wrap around myself in the evenings and I instantly feel comforted and I can begin to unwind from a day at work.

Rest
The last few weeks I have found myself needing to rest alone in the evenings. I lock my bedroom door and just have time to myself laying on my bed, reading something or watching Gilmore Girls. I'm an introvert at heart. I like to be alone to recharge. As much as I love being with people it can sometimes be a little tiring. A few moments of solitude can do so much good.

Make, bake, create
I love doing things with my hands. I have a creative mind but I don't use it as much as I would like. I do little things like bake, it fun and you get something delicious out of it. I take photos and make a scrapbook. I've started practising modern calligraphy and I'm creating my own style. Making something that wasn't once there feels like a real accomplishment and it can also be a great hobby.

Write it down
Sometimes our heads get overcrowded with thoughts. It may be a mental list of things you need to do, worries that cloud your mind or a million random thoughts and ideas. Writing it down can do wonders. You can refer back to the notes you scribble, let out everything that's inside and develop those thoughts. I have a little journal I like to write in from time to time. Sometimes I use it like a diary and talk about what I've been doing or when I need to clear my mind.

Plan something for the future
I love it when I have something to look forward to. It could be a trip away, coffee with friends or something bigger. It gives you something to focus on and a little direction.

Clean and tidy your space
Tidy life, tidy mind. I don't like mess, I'm not perfect (nobody is) but I do what I can to keep my surroundings clean and tidy. It feels good to spend a bit of time cleaning, it's therapeutic and you feel good about it afterwards. It's also one less thing to think about and creates space in your head for the more important things.

Wherever you are in your self care or mindfulness journey, keep doing what is best for you. You've got this.
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It feels longer than just a couple of weeks since I was walking around Edinburgh on Christmas Eve, holding onto my loves hands as we explored the beautiful city together.

I wish we could have stayed for a few days longer and soak up every piece of the festive season in one of my new favourite places. It was the first time I went away for Christmas without going to visit family, so it was a quiet and peaceful few days with my favourite human. A special one for us, I cherish all the days I get to spend with him, being in a long distance relationship truly makes you appreciate the time you do have with each other. So spending Christmas together in a little cosy flat for a few days made it even better.

We arrived when the storm came in. Walking through the windy streets, stopping for coffee and then to our Airbnb. A sweet little place, perfect for two and close to the city centre. We had a wander around the local area, picked up everything we needed for the Christmas dinner and a few comforting treats. We stayed in for the rest of the evening, hiding away from the storm.

The next day, Christmas Eve, we walked up to Edinburgh Castle. A stunning view of the city and the Scottish hills in the distance. Then walked down the Royal Mile, stepping into some of the little shops along the way. You can get to all the places you need to on foot, especially when your boyfriend is a great navigator and finds the short cuts.

The Christmas market was our next stop, we found the marshmallow kisses straight away. It's a little tradition of ours to share one (or two) when we are at a Christmas market. We had a look at the stalls and admired the Christmas ornaments and trinkets. I had a Baileys coffee and he had a Baileys hot chocolate, he definitely won the best drink game.

We walked a little further and ended up in a little pub in Grassmarket, we warmed ourselves up and watched people go by as the light slipped away. We made our way back to the flat, watched some TV and films under a blanket with a cup of tea and biscuits. A true cosy night in.

On Christmas Day, we started the day off slowly. Opened a few presents in bed and made a hearty breakfast before going for a walk around the city. There is something special about being outside, exploring a city when everything is closed and the streets are quiet on Christmas Day. You have time and space to admire the historic buildings, surrounded by cobbled roads and small lanes. I can see myself living in a place like this.

As we were about to start making our way back, the rain came and completely soaked us. Not how I intended to spend my afternoon but it is strangely a nice little memory I'll always have. We warmed ourselves up, got into comfy clothes and started making dinner. I had a nut roast for my Christmas dinner with all the delicious vegetables, stuffing, roast potatoes and Yorkshire pudding. And of course some gooey chocolate cake for dessert.

After filling ourselves up, we drank presecco and got comfortable on the sofa for the rest of the evening. it's the little things like spending time with your love and just being together that makes me feel so incredibly thankful for all that I have. I couldn't have asked for anything more perfect.

It was bittersweet knowing it was our last night. We had a couple of hours in the city before heading back home, I wasn't ready to say goodbye to Edinburgh. I know I'll be back again. Scotland is where I was born and there will always be a place in my heart for this beautiful country. More days like these is all I need.









A Christmas in Edinburgh

11.1.17


It feels longer than just a couple of weeks since I was walking around Edinburgh on Christmas Eve, holding onto my loves hands as we explored the beautiful city together.

I wish we could have stayed for a few days longer and soak up every piece of the festive season in one of my new favourite places. It was the first time I went away for Christmas without going to visit family, so it was a quiet and peaceful few days with my favourite human. A special one for us, I cherish all the days I get to spend with him, being in a long distance relationship truly makes you appreciate the time you do have with each other. So spending Christmas together in a little cosy flat for a few days made it even better.

We arrived when the storm came in. Walking through the windy streets, stopping for coffee and then to our Airbnb. A sweet little place, perfect for two and close to the city centre. We had a wander around the local area, picked up everything we needed for the Christmas dinner and a few comforting treats. We stayed in for the rest of the evening, hiding away from the storm.

The next day, Christmas Eve, we walked up to Edinburgh Castle. A stunning view of the city and the Scottish hills in the distance. Then walked down the Royal Mile, stepping into some of the little shops along the way. You can get to all the places you need to on foot, especially when your boyfriend is a great navigator and finds the short cuts.

The Christmas market was our next stop, we found the marshmallow kisses straight away. It's a little tradition of ours to share one (or two) when we are at a Christmas market. We had a look at the stalls and admired the Christmas ornaments and trinkets. I had a Baileys coffee and he had a Baileys hot chocolate, he definitely won the best drink game.

We walked a little further and ended up in a little pub in Grassmarket, we warmed ourselves up and watched people go by as the light slipped away. We made our way back to the flat, watched some TV and films under a blanket with a cup of tea and biscuits. A true cosy night in.

On Christmas Day, we started the day off slowly. Opened a few presents in bed and made a hearty breakfast before going for a walk around the city. There is something special about being outside, exploring a city when everything is closed and the streets are quiet on Christmas Day. You have time and space to admire the historic buildings, surrounded by cobbled roads and small lanes. I can see myself living in a place like this.

As we were about to start making our way back, the rain came and completely soaked us. Not how I intended to spend my afternoon but it is strangely a nice little memory I'll always have. We warmed ourselves up, got into comfy clothes and started making dinner. I had a nut roast for my Christmas dinner with all the delicious vegetables, stuffing, roast potatoes and Yorkshire pudding. And of course some gooey chocolate cake for dessert.

After filling ourselves up, we drank presecco and got comfortable on the sofa for the rest of the evening. it's the little things like spending time with your love and just being together that makes me feel so incredibly thankful for all that I have. I couldn't have asked for anything more perfect.

It was bittersweet knowing it was our last night. We had a couple of hours in the city before heading back home, I wasn't ready to say goodbye to Edinburgh. I know I'll be back again. Scotland is where I was born and there will always be a place in my heart for this beautiful country. More days like these is all I need.









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